Okay, so just got through blogging about the Stokers this weekend, but there was even more, more I say!, to blog about, as Sunday was Father’s Day, and I took my grandfather out to the 90th annual Tettemer-Dillion family reunion (though he and I are both Adamses, his mother was a Tettemer, so that’s how we fit in).
Going was all my idea, so I have no one to blame but myself, but I figured it would be kind of boring going into it. I’d been to the reunion a bunch of times as a kid, then once again a few years ago when I moved back up to NJ. It’s mainly boring because it revolves around eating and not much else; back then I was a fat-ass, so at least I had the food to entertain me; now being the slim, fit, sexy-bastard that I am, I could not indulge in the fat-laden barbeque goodness. But it was Father’s Day, and that’s not about me, and I figured my grandfather would enjoy seeing some of the family.
Sadly, though the reunion has been going on for 90 years, numbers have been dwindling dramatically over the past couple years, with this year’s crowd being particularly small. It’s always (or for around 80 years or something) been held at this one pavillion in PA near the NJ border, but a few years ago (the last time I was there, actually), during the business meeting, it was proposed that the event be moved because the pavillion offered no amenities: it’s basically just a pavillion with a bunch of picnic tables and some empty fields around it–no basketball courts, baseball/softball fields, etc. As I recall, it was voted on, and it was decided that the reunion would be moved, but a good portion of the family was upset at the idea of moving it, since it had been tradition to be there for so long, and an emotional plea by several family members subverted the democratic process. This rift apparently drove off those who wanted the reunion moved, and so this year much time was spent discussing how to get the family back together. The pavillion, which would normally be totally filled, was about half empty this year, so everyone found this troubling.
My problem with the reunion mainly is that though it’s *family* reunion, I don’t know most of the people there, and somehow there’s people several years older than me and several years younger than me, but no one my age. And me being a shy geekish sort, I’m not one to go around introducing myself to strangers, even if they are family. I was personally torn on the venue issue, understanding the want to keep tradition going, but on the other hand, I thought that if there *were* basketball courts and the like, that would get me talking to some other people at the reunion should we all congregate there to shoot some hoops.
One suggestion that I really liked was that the organizers put some effort into doing some games/events for the grown up men (I mean, it is *Father’s Day* after all). Most of the activities are geared toward keeping the kids entertained (they have an egg toss, and some kind of jumping-over-the-rope contest), but not much for the adults. Someone suggested some kind of chipping contest (a golf thing), which might be fun. But I thought that since there’s so many people at this thing, a softball game would be a natural thing to organize. Pretty much anyone can play softball, and you don’t even really need a field per se, so long as you have a wide open area.
In any case, the reunion wasn’t so bad, despite the lack of things to do and the sparse attendance. I spent some time talking with my older cousin Jimmy Gafgen, who is an accomplished sculptor. He’s got statues all over New Jersey, and I don’t know where all else. I’ve been trying to convince him to get himself a website so people can read about (and see examples) of his work, but so far no luck. Here’s an article (without a picture, alas) about his newest sculpture, this one of Harriett Tubman; it was unveiled just recently, and Jimmy showed us some pictures. At the moment, he’s working on a veteran’s memorial, which will consist of a rifle stuck into the ground with a helmet atop it and a pair of boots beside it.
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